UCWG 080: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 38 – The Romance That Reveals


Intimacy and romance, especially in combination of the physical, intellectual, and emotional varieties, shows us parts of ourselves and the world that we did not know we were ready to explore. This type of love makes us act like we are fools, and this level of vulnerability often scars us, closing the door to returning there except in exercises in shallow lustful stimulation. Master this side of yourself so that you may share it with everyone who enters the inner sanctum of your identity, and especially that person with whom you may go on to share the entirety of the products of your life.

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UCWG 079: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 37 – Agreeable Associations


People share a fundamental need to bond with one another and form groups of mutual self-interest. The barriers ordinary people apply to this expansive process do not have to apply to you. You are not limited to bonding only with others who happen to have been born near you. They don’t need to share the same hobbies, or even speak the same language. You can seek out friends and partners no matter what superficial differences currently separate you. You can bond over the values that give your life meaning.

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UCWG 078: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 36 – Showcasing Love and Emotion


Love is a deeply abused phenomenon. At the most basic level, love is a shared sense of identity. Love is not limited to the romantic narratives we learn from dramatic storytelling. You can love an object because it helps you express who you are. It complements your sense of identity, helping you be more of yourself. You love a famous person because you see parts of them in yourself, or at least parts of them you wish were in yourself. You love another person in a deep and personal way because you are capable of empathizing with them as though you were living the same life.

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UCWG 077: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 35 – Empathy and the Sharing of Identity


One of the hardest things in the world for exceptional people to accept is that the average human will never share their values. The fact that you pursue excellence does not mean you can expect others to. To hold this expectation is profoundly arrogant. It means you have not learned true empathy, for you cannot see other people as individual beings separate from you.

It is a major emotional milestone to see other people as conscious entities, each experiencing their subjective reality in the shared space of absolute truth. We all begin life somewhat sociopathic, first developing only awareness of our own needs. Then, slowly, we realize the beings around us must also think, feel, and experience in a similar manner to how we do.

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UCWG 076: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 34 – The World Is Not Only You

It is not enough to rest on your laurels in the personal domain alone. Though a necessary first step, what comes next is vastly more complex; its effects far more potentially profound. When you are ready, it is time to expand beyond yourself.

Know, before you begin, that others have not chosen the same path as you. They live according to the unconscious instructions of their culture. This makes them a danger, for at any moment they could sacrifice their character for the sake of narrative consistency.

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UCWG 075: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 33 – Resetting the Self

The journey of heroic maturity climaxes in the confrontation of one’s deepest fears, even literal death, and emerging as a truer version of oneself. You must, sooner or later, face the pieces of yourself you have buried. It will hurt when you face them. It will hurt when you separate from that to which you are most attached. Emotional release relieves you when the separation is complete. Then you have the space to rebuild yourself better than you were before.

Operating as your mature self, you will recognize the difference between the reality of a thing and the common story told about it. You will see the limits of the immature person you spent your life believing you were, and you will be ready to abandon the limits the world forced on you. You will invest yourself in uncertain futures. You will survive the emotional aftermath of deep failure. You will learn to create a world for you as what you are when you fully express yourself.

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UCWG 074: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 32 – Slaying the Idealized Self

You cannot help but conceive of the world through the lens of internal categorization. Categories are useful filters for the intellect. Your mind filters reality into fine details, which overlap, sharing qualities that can be applied for specific functions. Categorization is what makes information useful, including information about what you are supposed to be. You develop your categories through observations, but more often the influence of people who came before you.

If you allow other people to set your categories for you, you will never be fully yourself. If you embrace tradition, you will never look for exceptional alternatives. If you accept that your life must proceed according to one of the plans society offers, you will never express the parts of you that exist outside these boundaries. Your conception of what you think you are supposed to be will always rely on clues given by other people as to what is acceptable.

An idealized version of you is created the moment other people project their preferences onto your mind. When they identify something they like about you, it creates a positive feedback loop. You desire their approval, so you emphasize the quality they picked out as more important than all the rest. With enough positive feedback, you start to forfeit anything contradictory, amputating large swaths of your potential.

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UCWG 073: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 31 – Reflection & Disillusionment

To realize what matters is only the first step in the journey to live out the narrative of your life. You then must adopt your values as principles to guide your actions. Though daunting as it may be, accept that you will never flawlessly live up to your own standards. No one is perfect in their actions. The heroic person is willing to try, without end, despite falling short of his ideals.

Your resolve may be hard as iron, but resolve is not enough to make a difference. You are still slave to the rules of the universe. Locked in an ongoing battle against disorder, your body and your mind are subject to fatigue. It can strike you any time if you are not cognizant of your nature. You may sacrifice long-term results for a short-term feeling of progress.

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UCWG 072: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 30 – The Character You Aim For

Part of the maturing process is coming to the realization that there are aspects to reality you care about more than others. If no one had ever told you what to spend your time on, you would have had to arrive at such a grand conclusion through your own meticulous investigation of the options. You would have to have become sensitive to your own nature so that you could observe how concepts and experiences affected you emotionally.

With enough self-knowledge, you can begin to prioritize your life rationally. You can discriminate, on your terms, what matters from what does not. Discrimination carries an incredible level of responsibility that most the adults running the planet today do not respect or understand. They had their occupations handed down to them. You will be different. You will decide your actions carefully.

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UCWG 071: Unceasing Self-Discovery Part 29 – Guided Disruption

You cannot solve the problems of your existence with superficial pursuits that perpetuate the life you already know. The existential cause of deep suffering is a profound life spent without examination or challenge. The world thrives on keeping where you are, as that is where it knows how to reach you and act on your needs. The world has a proprietary interest in stunting your growth. Because of them, you are never able to go after what they want in life. You will never ascend to the profound truth of your identity.

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