UCWG 041: Can You Forge a Unique Path While Trapped in the Confines of a Conventional University? Exploring Purpose and Opportunity Beyond the Four-Year College Path with Sabah Ali.

 

The conventional four-year college path is one of the most outdated social structures of the modern world. This is not to say that it is completely without value for some people, only that its present application as a required entryway from childhood illusion to the cold, hard, ugly “real world” of adulthood. The typical college student in most part of the United States is defined by a lack of ambition and direction, filling their idle time with self-destructive substances and parties, not the passion for a specific pursuit that college will create a path to.

Our guest today is a college entrepreneur. Sabah Ali exists somewhere in the middle ground between the conventional college student who entered the path because it was what she was “supposed to” do, and a genuine, personal drive to succeed in business and life. As she prepares for her final year as a senior at Iowa State University, she reflects upon the choices that brought her to the college path and where things are going for her afterward. She ponders how different her life may already have turned out had she chosen something more unconventional, such as traveling the world, starting a business, or just a variety of types of professional experience.

College was once the only path to certain kinds of knowledge and professional options. In the age of the internet, this is rarely still the case. The world will urge you to conform to the actions that shaped their upbringing, the “common knowledge” that now dictates what is to be considered ordinary human behavior for your generation. Their arguments are bland and generic, never coming from a place of grounded personal experience or connecting to your specific desires. Real reasons to go to college or university cannot be extracted from a person who never discovered their values. Real reasons cannot be accepted by a young person who has never had the social opportunities to think about their actions. He cannot make a rational choice about how to best pursue his goals, least of all how to spend the crucial developmental years that kick off his acceptance into the social domain of adulthood. Colleges and universities today, more than anything else, give unprepared teenagers four additional years to avoid the responsibility of real choices, of learning to live their lives as their own masters.

The standard college experience gives young adults who have never had to make any meaningful decisions about their own lives an artificial structure through which to form their relationships, education, and overall lifestyle. If taken too seriously, it can permanently damage an exceptional individual’s ability to think on their terms. Modern schooling institutions rob individuals of their individual by cutting them off from the practical consequences of critical thinking, encompassing them in a womb of security where no chances are taken and no mistakes are ever felt. In the end, they emerge as a mostly homogenized blend of their social values, destroying their capacity to create new things for themselves or the remainder of the human world.

If you find yourself on a path of dissatisfaction with the conventional paths presented to you, do not give in to the pressure to give in to the easy options readily available. Instead, go off purposefully to find something strange, challenging, and unpredictable. Take time away from the motion of your ordinary world to gain clarity and perspective over what the ideal choice for you may be. You cannot choose what is right until you have a decent idea about the possible options the world holds for someone such as you. Yet, the educational model of the modern world demands that you set yourself on a life course that will affect your major economic and lifestyle possibilities until the time you die. Do not rush into social comfort and prepared molds for living. Allow yourself to burn in the fires of uncertainty for as long as you are able. Soon, you will have the strength of character to make the right decisions for the principle of what you seek.

Sabah Ali, Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory

Sabah Ali, Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory

Things mentioned:

Sabah Ali:

http://sabahali.com/

 

Sabah Ali’s podcast, From the Dorm Room to the Boardroom:

http://drtocr.com/

 

Sabah Ali’s book, Enrolling in Confidence:

https://www.amazon.com/Enrolling-Confidence-Live-Lifestyle-College-ebook/dp/B06XYM2SSR/

UCWG 040: What if You Could Design Your Own Country? Starting a Sovereign Nation from Scratch with Vít Jedlička, President of Liberland.


Vít Jedlička is the president of the world’s youngest country. His new micronation, the Free Republic of Liberland, is only three square miles in size. It was established in April 2016 in an area between Croatia and Serbia which had been unclaimed by either country for many years. Unlike other emerging territories on Earth, there are no other claims to ownership on the land Liberland has been established on.

Founded primarily on libertarian values, the nation of Liberland is designed to cater to people who do not identify with the values of the place they were arbitrarily born into. Vít believes that people everywhere should be free to set up lives for themselves where they are free to live how they want, in line with their preferences and values. For most people in the world, their nationality and cultural values define their behavior and opportunities more than any other single factor in their lives. Without extraordinary effort to take these matters into their own hands by moving outside their culture and acquiring new nationalities, they remain slave to the social conditions of their birth.

What defines a nation today is nothing more than an arbitrary agreement among world powers of which boundaries matter and which do not. Throughout the world, there are over 100 areas which are considered disputed territories or demi-nations. Each is fighting for recognition among the leading world powers that are always in flux and generally taken for granted. The world does not have to look the way that it does, ruled by the groups that currently claim the power to make rules and raise armies to enforce their views. With changes in technology and philosophy, the layout of the world will evolve rapidly.

In its short lifespan, Liberland has acquired nearly half a million applicants for citizenship through its merit system, which will eventually award passports and citizenship to those who provide significant value for the development of the country. The team behind Liberland currently has the task of determining which of the many applicants adhere properly to the values they have declared for the nation, and which have earned the right to call themselves citizens by the time they are ready to start operating as an official part of the world political landscape.

Liberland is slowly being developed with physical structures and community activities, though it is still difficult to access the land. Currently, Croatia prevents entry into Liberland. In doing so, they are acknowledging that Liberland is a separate nation from itself. If Vít and his team go through the proper channels to establish their nationhood, Liberland will someday be respected by existing world powers as a real nation. Whether or not that ever happens, right now it still stands for an important principle of freedom and individual choice in how cultures evolve. Someday, nations will be far smaller and more personalized than the 196 monoliths we have now. Someday, they nations may be obsolete entirely.

 

Vít Jedlička, President of Liberland, Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Vít Jedlička, President of Liberland, Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Things mentioned:

Liberland:

https://liberland.org/

 

Vít Jedlička

https://www.facebook.com/vit.jedlicka/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/V%C3%ADt_Jedli%C4%8Dka

 

Montevideo Convention, rules for starting a country:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Montevideo_Convention

 

List of disputed territories in the world:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_territorial_disputes

 

Artsakh, between Armenia and Azerbaijan:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nagorno-Karabakh_Republic

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Political_status_of_Artsakh

http://www.president.am/en/Artsakh-nkr/

 

Abkhazia, Georgia:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abkhazia

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-18175030

 

Somaliland:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somaliland

www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-14115069

 

Unrepresented Nations and Peoples Organization:

http://www.unpo.org/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrepresented_Nations_and_Peoples_Organization

UCWG 039: How Do You Take the First Step of the Exceptional Path? Overcoming the Burden of Lifestyle Choice and Arriving at Your Own Authentic Values.

A regular listener of Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory joins the show to have an emotionally vulnerable discussion about breaking away from the ordinary life she is trapped in. She learns that as much as she knows what she doesn’t want from her life, she has never seriously considered what she actually values. She has had no rational way to take the first step away from familiarity and embrace the unknown.

The nature of living in a complex society is such that it seems nearly impossible to extricate your life from the constantly moving pieces of the machinery you have grown to live as part of. Stay stuck in the motion too long, and it becomes impossible to envision what your life can look like beyond its boundaries. As a result, even the people who begin to realize that there is more to their identity than what they have been told can never figure out how to take the meaningful first step away from the life they already know. They only know that that do not want to repeat the defining values they already know.

This idle suffering, if it persists for too long, can bring an exceptional young person to madness. In one form or another, they must begin to make meaningful decisions in the pursuit of their personal values. Above all, these choices must move out of the realm of concepts and into actions that challenge them, physical, mentally, and emotionally all at once. That is the only way they see what remains true for them in the face of great challenge.

The point of having values is to segregate and evaluate what actions to take out of all possible choices. Your values define for you what is right and wrong, what will bring you the deepest sense of satisfaction or dissatisfaction. If you are never placed in a position to think with your own agency and arrive at a new choice with your values, you will always default to the values others have implanted within you. They have already made a million major and minor choices, so you don’t have to.

When you know the nature of your values, you will be able to reverse engineer the actions you can take, out of all possible actions, which will bring you closer to the embodiment of your values in your life. When you are thrust into the uncomfortable unknown, you will find that you have to make a choice. The nature of that choice will reveal who you fundamentally are.

In order to be able to make any sort of meaningful choice at all, you first need one vital thing as the foundation of your actions, and it is something notably missing in young people today (especially young women): self-worth. Without confidence in your wants and your abilities, you will never do anything new at all. This is the primordial step away from the life you already know: to believe in yourself so well that no matter what happens, you trust you will always thrive in the infinite uncertainty of the universe at large.

UCWG 038: Why Do Men Today Fail to Develop Mature Masculinity? Reclaiming the Masculine Essence with Nate Lind of Legendary-Man.com

Today, more than ever, there seems to be a growing culture war between masculinity and femininity in society. Men are starting to feel threatened by the growing presence and empowerment of women, just as women are losing touch with their feminine nature as they are pushed to take on masculine roles coercively. Nothing is in its right place anymore, and society suffers because we have lost the natural balance between us.

Masculinity does not have to look like any one stereotypical role in society. It is an agreement which changes over time and across cultures. Every society on Earth has a somewhat different idea of how a family unit ought to function, how men must bond and work with each other, how courting and marriage works, and so on.

Beyond the cultural rules of how men ought to act, there is an evolutionary generalization of traits that men tend to hold in greater quantity than women, for better or worse. The same traits applied in different ways or managed incorrectly can shift from being massive assets to horrible detriments for men. A man’s sex drive can be a powerful, productive force in his life or a horrible and immature distraction. His great, innate aggressive instincts can help him accomplish goals and destroy obstacles, or it can turn self-destructive and anti-social.

The primal role of man is to be proactive: a doer who initiates progress in his own life and for society. He grows through resistance and testing his limits. Yet, many men fail to own this property as they advice from boyhood to manhood, predominantly because they lack father figures and other relevant examples of mature masculinity to guide them. They never learn to manage the great disorder within them as they grow.

The growing backlash against the traditional masculine and female roles is Western society is dividing men and women from their natural state of attraction and support for each other. Men must retake their primal masculinity if they are to contribute to a restored balance in the dynamic between the two archetypes.

Nate Lind is the founder of Legendary Man. Legendary Man offers men the opportunity to bond with one another and collect the maturing influence they might have been lacking, to participate in traditional activities like hunting and fishing which imbue them with the ability to act bravely and virtuously as they develop deep friendships and get to know themselves more deeply. Nate believes that it is essential for developing men to spend some time isolated from women so that they can learn from others who understand the unique trials of their disposition in life.

In addition to learning to work tribally with other mindful men, the mature man must also learn to face the nature of his path in isolation with zero social supports to guide him. He must learn to be the master of his own destiny again.

The masculine destiny is to become the durable standard bearer of a new way of acting in the world: the embodiment of a specific ideal which matters most to him. The commitment to this principle crafts all the actions in his life that follow.

In his own journey of masculinity, Nate spent 15 years struggling to lose weight until he learned to look at the problem in a different perspective beyond just struggling physically against a problem he could not control. He realized that true masculinity was not ceaseless struggling, but being dedicated and resourceful enough to do whatever is necessary to accomplish what he knows must be done. After undergoing bariatric surgery, he was able to lose 200 pounds and keep it off for the first time in his life as soon as he did what he realized was necessary.

This is the gift that a man learns as he lives in isolation and battles his own personal dragons. He learns to look at life beyond the filter of how other people tell him things are supposed to be done. He finds his own path against seemingly impossible barriers.

Nate Lind, Legendary Man, Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Nate Lind, Legendary Man, Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Legendary Man:

http://legendary-man.com/

Doctor Who will now be played by a woman, Jodie Whittaker:

http://www.bbcamerica.com/anglophenia/2017/07/doctor-whos-thirteenth-doctor-is-jodie-whittaker

UCWG 035: How Does Looking at the World as a Single Destination Transform You? Developing a New Philosophy of Travel with Nicos Hadjicostis, Author of Destination Earth.

Nicos Hadjicostis wrote the book Destination Earth after traveling to more than 70 countries in 6 years in his 40’s. His goal was to learn to look at all of earth as though it were a single destination, beyond arbitrary national and cultural borders. His book, and Gregory’s own Travel As Transformation, are a rare type of book to explore the philosophical implications and profound personal transformation made possible only by travel. Though Gregory and Nicos agree on many things, there is still a world of differentiated nuance in the conclusions their respective journeys have brought them to.

Gregory’s book is written from the perspective of a naïve young Californian man rapidly coming to realize how much bigger the world is than he was ever led to believe. Nicos’ book is written by a man approaching middle age who already had a wealth of practical and philosophical expertise on the world. Both books are predominantly philosophy books, presented through the categorical structure of travel experiences. They are not typical “travel” books.

Nicos compares the choices a traveler makes in the way he chooses where to go and what to do in a new country to the choices we make for how we structure every aspect of our lives and identities. There is always more to see and to do than we are capable of accomplishing with limited time. Diminishing returns also quickly become a factor in any new activity. Every traveler must choose for themselves when it is optimal to move on to the next location or activity, just as each of us must decide when to move on to a new stage of our personal development.

If you were to travel back in time to any ancient culture on Earth, you would be unable to understand the cultural mindset that existed back then to explain the dominant behaviors of any group of people. The same principle applies even many of the modern cultures that currently exist. The further away you step from your home country, the more flexible you are going to have to become in your analysis of why people act the ways they do. You must eventually accept that everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do, not matter how strange or offensive you might find their behavior to be.

The more you experience as you travel, and the older you are when you have these experiences, the harder it will be to reconcile the new knowledge you have acquired with your old interpretations of life. Nicos explains that travel engenders more travel. He originally planned to only travel for two years, but sooner after setting off he realized that the world was much bigger than he anticipated. There were so many more things to see and do than he could have guessed when he began.

People can only derive the principles of their identity by having a wide berth of incidental experiences that show them what is possible and how they respond to everything that can happen. If you work many different types of jobs in your life, you will quickly see what you like or dislike about each one.

Being proud of one’s nation necessarily divides the human race along arbitrary lines, pitting us against each other when we could all be working together for common goals. When national pride can expand to become global pride, we can evolve past our present sociological problems. World travel breaks down the identification barriers in an individual mind, and perhaps then may be a necessary part of the process of fixing the world’s dualistic problems of fighting against its own interests. Individuals can begin taking strategic steps now to start living the life of a global citizen now, even if the rest of the world isn’t ready. Your group identification ends only where you allow it to.

Moving into the unknown is a function of your will to act when you don’t know what’s going to happen. If you can master your fear, everything else in the journey begins to fall into place. It has nothing to do with how well you plan or what you think you want. Take the first step, and then be ready to take the next.

 

Destination Earth by Nicos Hadjicostis

Destination Earth by Nicos Hadjicostis

Things mentioned:
Nicos Hadjicostis website:
http://nicoshadjicostis.com/

 

Destination Earth by Nicos Hadjicostis:
http://amzn.to/2skocjr
Travel As Transformation by Gregory V. Diehl:
http://amzn.to/2fDzgkM

 

Vagabonding by Rolf Potts:
http://amzn.to/2szX30c

The Four-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss:
http://amzn.to/2tKfRdl

 

Nicos Hadjicostis, Uncomfortable Comfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Nicos Hadjicostis, Uncomfortable Comfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

UCWG 012: Will You Survive the Cultural Singularity? Third Culture Kids and Embracing Cultural Homelessness:
https://gregorydiehl.net/ucwg-012-survive-cultural-singularity-third-culture-kids-embracing-cultural-homelessness/

 

UCWG 024: What are the Processes and Objectives of Your Transformational Journey? 10 years and 100 Life Goals Accomplished by Tal Gur:
https://gregorydiehl.net/ucwg-024-fully-lived-transformational-journey-10-years-100-life-goals-tal-gur/

UCWG 034: Why Should Anyone Give a Damn About Spiritual Enlightenment? How Meditation, Meta-Cognition, and Linguistic Relativity Shape the Egoic Self.

Alexander, a young man struggling to express himself fully after reading Gregory’s book (Travel As Transformation), returns to Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory after his appearance in UCWG 006: Does Knowledge Without Power Lead to Idle Suffering? to carry the dialogue on from their first conversation about being bold enough to pursue the interests of great intellect. The conversation this time around gets much more personal to both Gregory and Alexander’s unique perspectives on themselves and interaction with the people of the world, eventually coming to a head for the purpose of meditation and enlightenment.

The world is composed of only two things: experiences you are prepared to handle and experiences you are not prepared to handle. When an event that is outside your unconscious expectations comes into your life, you shift your conscious attention toward it so that you can figure it out and learn how to apply it in your life. This necessarily slows down your thought processes, however.

Whenever two people communicate, they have to be able to fit their thoughts into a structure that will make sense in the internal model of the one they are talking to. No communication is ever perfect. There is always information lost. There is always imperfect representation. Communication only needs to be good enough to be functional, so that two separate entities can come together in pursuit of a common, conscious goal.

All people rely on narrative structures to layer cognitive categories to filter the information that drives their lives. We all tell stories to explain or to justify who we think we are and what we think we are pursuing. Our conscious cognitive structures give justification for our unconscious wants, and this grows only more complex as we evolve out of childhood. This is why is so important to question every thought and value in our minds as our lives grow more mature and complex.

Regardless of the specific complexities within a person’s mind, everyone bridges the gap through the use of language. Language forces us to meet somewhere in the middle of our unique subjective worlds and share, for a time, an understanding of how things are. To improve our communication, we need to be able to reach into our subconscious assumptions and processes about other people. We all operate from flawed axioms about how human beings are supposed to work, and this prevents us from seeing things clearly and really connecting with others.

Alexander describes his conception of enlightenment as the pulling apart of the layers of the conceptual mind, the personal identity someone has of themselves. The enlightened mind is more easily able to address each layer of itself without harmfully tying them all together into conflicted states that do not serve the goals of the individual. The enlightened person has a greater perspective on why he perceives things the way he does and wants what he wants. The quality of enlightenment means the difference between a fulfilled life and a life of constant suffering, regardless of the activities a person pursues.

Meditation is supposed to give a person the perspective of enlightenment, yet most meditators limit its effect to highly specific practices. The effects of meditation can and should be brought into regular active life, to the point where times set aside for meditation are no longer required. The goal is to become aware of your mind in everything you do, not just when you’ve decided it’s time to engage in spiritual practice. Meditation in a controlled setting does not prepare you for your mind’s interaction with the real, chaotic world. It creates addiction and dependence.

If you don’t think you have an ego anymore, you are more subject to the delusions of the ego. This is a state of spiritual pride: to delude yourself into thinking you are immune to delusion. A crazy person doesn’t know they are crazy. The devil tricks the world into thinking he no longer exists so that he has greater manipulative power over it. He who says he is enlightened has just revealed himself not to be so.

The goal of enlightenment is not to acquire any specific piece of knowledge or physical skill. Enlightenment is disentangling yourself from whatever arbitrary narratives and cognitive structures determine how your mind processes information. The enlightened man can adapt to new circumstances without a prior structure by simply coming into them from neutral conditions and building a new structure from the ground up. In any moment, he can reset himself to the present and act as though he knew nothing before.

People come into conflict when they use terms in a categorical way that conflicts with other commonly held categories. Being transgender or homosexual rises out of a set of conditional qualities, and instead becomes an identity and a sociological concept. If everyone were able to just own the desires and apparent qualities that apply to them, these group identity clashes would never happen. Being precise with our language enables us to root out the cause of our deepest psychological misunderstandings and social problems.

Know what you want, and know how your mind works. If you knew nothing but those two things with certainty, you would live a very satisfied life.

 

Things mentioned:

UCWG 006: Does Knowledge without Power Lead to Idle Suffering? Matching Intellect with Boldness of Action –

https://gregorydiehl.net/ucwg-006-knowledge-power-lead-idle-suffering-matching-intellect-boldness-action/

 

Gregory’s book, Travel As Transformation: http://amzn.to/2fDzgkM

 

UCWG 031: Do You Dare To Follow Your Hero’s Journey to Find Self-Actualization? Life Purpose As The Highest Priority With Leo Gura of Actualized.org –

https://gregorydiehl.net/ucwg-031-heros-journey-self-actualization-life-purpose-highest-priority-leo-gura-actualized-org/

 

Actualized.org by Leo Gura:

https://actualized.org/

 

UCWG 001: How Many Dicks Would You Have to Suck to Know You Weren’t Gay? The Practical Limits of Exploration –

https://gregorydiehl.net/ucwg-001-many-dicks-suck-know-werent-gay-practical-limits-exploration/

 

E-Prime:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/E-Prime

 

Sapir-Whorf Hypothesis (linguistic relativity):

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linguistic_relativity

 

Andrew Galambos, Jay Snelson, and the V-50 Lectures:

https://youtu.be/Whx4QA3tGCo?list=PL2902B51D3386B77C

http://www.volitionalscience.org/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_Joseph_Galambos

https://www.galambos-fei.com/

UCWG 033: Are Disruptive Events Essential to an Exceptional Life? Young People Escaping Conventional Career Paths with JC Preston of New Inceptions.

There are two kinds of people in the world: those with the qualities of leaders and those with the qualities of followers. Many who are naturally leaders do not have the bravery required to act on their leadership qualities. They need an inspirational influence. They need a catalyst to awaken them to the powerful actions of which they are capable.

JC Preston runs New Inceptions and the Angles of Lattitude podcast, where he shows young people how to acquire the qualities of leadership and self-direction in life. Most people have their leadership qualities suppressed by the traditional Prussion educational model almost everyone goes through in children. Society breeds followers and conformity, making those who do not naturally follow suffer immensely throughout life.

Evolution on a sociological level happens much slower than it can on the level of the individual, so there will always be resistance when the two do not align in their acceleration or trajectory. Without hope, individuals are almost certain to succumb to social pressures and sacrifice their individual motion.

Hope can come in the form of a mentor, a person who shows the struggling hero that it is possible to succeed in the path he is on.

Leaders stuck on a followers path need a disruptive event to jostle them, violently, from the suboptimal paths they are on. The pain from seeing everything they know shaken from its ordinary structure calls them to adventure outward physically, and bring their thinking to superior levels.

Someone has to first inspire you with the successful choices they have made before you can know that exceptional choices are possible. If someone

The ordinary path today is embodied best by the 9-to-5 work week. Entrepreneurs work to push themselves out of this stifling pattern of living.

To walk away from the path of the follower requires sacrifice personally and socially. The world will not automatically know that what you offer is valuable. The way you built your life before is no longer compatible with the new pursuits you chase. The pain of familiarity must be beaten by the longing for something new.

When you make a fundamental shift in your identity, you are never just changing one aspect of your life. The entire structure by which you designed your lifestyle before can come crashing around you. The older you get, the stronger your motivation for change needs to be.

Rebellious people, not matter how crude and immature their actions, are being leaders to some degree in their lives. They only know they don’t want what the rest of the world would choose for them. With proper mentorship, they could hone their outgoing instincts and apply them to something with longevity and impact. However, they have a loner mentality to their actions. They are obsessed with seeing themselves as alone, pitted against the entire world. They aren’t willing to consider that there are valuable influences out there who could share their experiences and light the way, if only in a specific domain of life.

JC Preston, New Inceptions - Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

JC Preston, New Inceptions – Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

 

Things mentioned:

New Inceptions:

www.newinceptions.com

Angles of Lattitude Podcast:

www.anglesoflattitude.com

Transformational Learning through Travel: Why Your Next Trip Might Change Your Life and Business for the Better with Gregory V. Diehl (AoL 095):

https://newinceptions.com/transformational-learning-through-travel-gregory-v-diehl-aol-095/ 

UCWG 032: When Does Personal Development Evolve into Interpersonal Development? Collaboration Among Those Who Share Your Values with Parker Harris of Junto Global.

 

Our culture loves telling the story of one man taking on the world, working hard to do everything for himself. We build our movies and our myths around this archetype, and then unconsciously model it in our own lives. Useful as this type of path is, and even a necessary starting step, what comes next in the heroic journey?

The lone warrior must eventually learn how to deal with other people. He must form a tribe of ideas and perspectives that complement his own. He must be humble enough to know that however capable he is on his own, he will be more capable with the help of others. This humility only comes after he has earned healthy pride.

Parker Harris runs Junto Global, a networking organization for high-performing, high-ambition entrepreneurs dedicated to creating massive change in their lives and the world. Inspired by Benjamin Franklin’s meetings about 12 of his most respected and intelligent peers, Junto aims to enable individuals to act beyond their solo potential. This is a step that many capable individuals never reach in their development.

Education was once about helping people figure who they are, what they care about, and how to think about life. Today, it primarily serves to get the members of a society to act in a way that is considered in line with cultural and social values. We no longer need centralized schooling models to learn basic survival skills, as survival is now more nuanced and varied than any single path could ever adequately cover.

Foremost, children need to learn how to communicate harmoniously and interact with one another.

When young people first realize that they have never made their own choices, they move into an individualist, “me vs. the world”, state of mind to find themselves in solitude on their own personal journey. They perceive collective thinking as the enemy.

Mental traumas are often the result of thinking we are something other than what we are. Accurate thinking is the solution to this needless suffering. Exceptional people are prone to numbing themselves to the problems of society because they are hypersensitive to chaos and suffering. If they don’t learn to focus on the problems and passions that are most important to them, they might waste their lives and suffer needlessly until they die.

Our lives are determined by the quality of the questions we ask and the problems we attempts to solve.

You cannot know yourself completely if you come from either end of the suffering spectrum: abundance of everything or lack of anything. You need to see how you act under both conditions to see what you are capable of, and then comfortably navigate throughout the middle.

Your ability to experience deep suffering directly affects your ability to experience deep joy and fulfillment. You are more grounded in your pursuits when you have suffered, more dedicated, and more focused. You appreciate every win.

Delayed gratification is a product of maturity. Mature, well-tested people can look far into the future with their actions and go through tough trials that eventually lead to greater reward. Immature people have no tolerance for such trials.

The ability to accomplish what you want is dependent on first having the right experiences, acquiring the right tools, and meeting the right people.

 

“It’s not what you don’t know that’s going to hurt you. It’s what you know that isn’t so.”

Mark Twain

 

Parker Harris, Junto Global - Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Parker Harris, Junto Global – Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Things mentioned:

Junto Global: http://getstarted.juntoglobal.com/

UCWG 031: Do You Dare To Follow Your Hero’s Journey to Find Self-Actualization? Life Purpose As The Highest Priority With Leo Gura of Actualized.org – https://gregorydiehl.net/ucwg-031-heros-journey-self-actualization-life-purpose-highest-priority-leo-gura-actualized-org/

UCWG 029: How do Neuroatypicals Function in an Ordinary Society? Low Latent Inhibition, Divergent Thinking, and the Problem of Social Integration. – https://gregorydiehl.net/ucwg-029-natalie-marsh-neuroatypicals-society-low-latent-inhibition-lli-divergent-thinking-social-integration/

Become what you are.

Existential development requires you to move beyond physical needs and mental concepts. In that space, you begin to identify yourself as what you are before motion and value judgment. Holding onto this state, even as the world turns on its own axis all around you, is how you mature from your childish beginnings to the potential adult that was always within you. Maturity makes you a master of your awareness and responses. You cease to be a slave to your conditioning.

Underneath everything you ever experience lies the subtle layer of internalized processes. It supports every thought and emotion, but it is easy to overlook and miss its importance. An immature mind remains distracted from itself in an endless cycle of externally driven motion. Learn to stay grounded in the unchanging part of what you are, regardless of what problems you encounter. Build your armor against interference, or you will never know yourself.

The journey of heroic maturity climaxes in the confrontation of one’s deepest fears, even literal death, and emerging as a truer version of oneself. You must, sooner or later, face the pieces of yourself you have buried. It will hurt when you face them. It will hurt when you separate from that to which you are most attached. Emotional release relieves you when the separation is complete. Then you have the space to rebuild yourself better than you were before.

Operating as your mature self, you will recognize the difference between the reality of a thing and the common story told about it. You will see the limits of the immature person you spent your life believing you were, and you will be ready to abandon the limits the world forced on you. You will invest yourself in uncertain futures. You will survive the emotional aftermath of deep failure. You will learn to create a world for you as what you are when you fully express yourself.

This is the hero’s journey that is repeated over and over throughout your life with each unfamiliar challenge. When you can recognize challenges for what they are, merely your unconscious inability to adapt to the new conditions, you are then mature enough to focus on changing yourself before changing the world. That maturity is the apex where your pride meets your humility, and you maintain a confident, yet grounded, awareness of yourself. Once obtained, maturity will never leave you.

The hero of the story is the one who can push the limits of the conceptual world he inhabited when we began his journey. His physical exploits are inconsequential compared with how he changes within the domain of his own mind. External changes come and go, but inside he can accumulate unlimited progress. His journey is complete when he arrives at a new version of himself. Then, he spreads his influence onto the conceptual limits of everyone he knows.

As you delve further and deeper into the struggles of your existence, you are going to rely less on the events that happen to you to determine your actions. You will live less responsively and more proactively. The motivation behind your actions will originate from core values and principled axioms, not the immediate satiation of discomfort. You will know deeper suffering and deeper reward in the pursuit of your priorities.

You will know yourself completely when you embrace the middle ground between abundance and scarcity. You will explore how indulgence and abstinence play into your pursuit of reward. You will see yourself under each the extremes of each set of conditions. Your lows and your highs will be directly connected. Knowing what you are capable of, you will maturely navigate the middle ground of your limits to become the master of yourself.

You are more internally grounded through the breadth of your experiences. You appreciate every win and tolerate delays to your gratification. A well-tested individual peers into the future of his wants and his actions. He can wait, patiently, for the time to make a desired reality happen. The immature and underdeveloped individual has no tolerance the trials of time. Discomfort easily overtakes them. The immature individual, therefore, lacks any ability to accomplish great things.

You have survived the trials of meeting yourself. Now you will begin to acquire the tools and the relationships that empower you to be that person in every regard.

UCWG 031: Do You Dare To Follow Your Hero’s Journey to Find Self-Actualization? Life Purpose As The Highest Priority With Leo Gura of Actualized.org

Leo Gura is the founder of www.actualized.org, and the host of a popular Youtube channel on finding your life’s purposes and deep spirituality beyond stories. Leo and Gregory discuss the mythological principles of the Hero’s Journey, and what on earth all of that has to do with the path to finding one’s true self in life.

Most people attempt to solve existential level problems with superficial ego-serving solutions that, at best, temporarily alleviate the symptoms of being non-actualized. They ignore the existential cause of deep suffering. Spirituality is reduced to emotionally jarring clickbait titles because real analysis challenges the ego instead of feeding it. Most marketing is design to appeal to the ego, therefore distracting from raw truth.

Self-help authors prey on the weaknesses and fears of their audience. They don’t promote true growth and self-actualization. People stay stuck at one level of development and are never able to go after what they really want in life. Without solving the surface level needs of ordinary human desires, they will not ascend to the profound truth of their existence.

People frequently get stuck in lifestyle loops resolving the same problems and addressing the same needs time and again. They chase the wrong things in the wrong ways. Even if they are aware enough to know they want more sex or more money, they don’t know how to get these things. If no one ever introduces the idea of higher level goals, we do not move on. Popular media, more often than not, keeps us chasing our tails for the duration of our lives.

A human mind can only contain a certain quantity of problems to solve. A problem is simply any time your mind desires something to be different than it is. If it does not succeed it its desired change or accept the way things are, it cannot move on to higher level problems to change. You are always being manipulated by your brain to achieve what it sees as its survival needs.

Without outside influences to guide you to higher truths, you must have a deeply inquiring nature that forces you to move beyond what you already know. No experiences is inherently good or bad. It matters what meaning your mind adds to it: what you get from it. It can distract or serve as progression, such as watching a powerful movie or having sex.

Existential personal development is about moving beyond the realm of physical needs and mental beliefs. It’s about identifying yourself as what you are before any stimulation or value judgment. It is present in every single moment, always unchanging. Most religions and forms of spirituality think of this as a Godly presence, but it is only the authentic you.

Underneath the world of our gross physical experiences lies the subtle realm of what happens within us. It is underneath our thoughts and emotions even. Most people consider their spirituality a series of thoughts and beliefs, and therefore it only serves to distract them from the subtle truth of what they really are. They are setting themselves up for an unending trap of distraction from the truth. They must learn to stay grounded in the subtle unchanging part of reality, regardless of what problems they encounter.

The Hero’s Journey is about facing your deepest fears, even your physical death, and emerging on the other side in a higher state of existence. The Dark Night of the Soul is the lowest point on the Hero’s Journey where one must face the parts of themselves they have been avoiding their entire lives. They experience painful separation from the experiences they are most psychologically attached to. It is the only way to move into the subtle realm of their identity. Emotional release only comes when the loss is complete.

The Hero must learn to break away from the stories of his culture to follow his own path. He cannot act in resistance to what other people choose. He must place his own development as his highest priority above all other forms of ego gratification. Our education system, our politicians, and our popular culture are misleading almost everyone to pursue fruitless ends instead of knowing the truth about themselves.

Parents pass along the emotional loop they get stuck in to their children, getting them to value the same thing they arbitrarily picked up during their own lives. Almost no one teaches their offspring the fundamental values of the pursuit of self-knowledge from an early age. They remain forever unfulfilled, even if they acquire what they thought they wanted.

Every experience you ever have is biased by constantly changing chemical imbalances in your brain. Psychedelics and other substances can instantly show a person a radically different manner of experiencing reality, but there is no neutral control group even when a person is totally sober. The perspective of vast new experiences shows us the filter through which we see things, and a gateway to the subtle ongoing experience underneath everything.

In most Hero’s Journey stories, a mentor who has already completed their own journey guides the hero with the lessons they have already learned by overcoming their trials. Young people today lack adequate mentors because education and parenting are generalized for the masses. It is difficult to find someone uniquely suited to guide you on your quest. You need someone to show you what is possible if you stay on the path before you. Knowing that something can be done is what makes it viable to the uninitiated.

Negative emotions by themselves can be the starting point for major changing actions, but they cannot exist alone. They must be complemented by inspiration and a positive desire for greatness. Everyone needs a vision for their life to become everything they are capable of being.

 

Leo Gura, Actualized.org - Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Leo Gura, Actualized.org – Uncomfortable Conversations With Gregory Diehl

Websites mentioned:

Actualized.org by Leo Gura:

https://actualized.org/

Highest Hero’s Journey video:

https://actualized.org/articles/the-highest-heros-journey

Leo Gura’s YouTube channel:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgeicB5AuF3MyyUto0-M5Lw

Leo Gura’s Life Purpose Course:

https://www.actualized.org/life-purpose-course